People are perpetually looking for some "thing" or some "one" that will make them happy. The cold, hard truth is that those things do not exist. No matter how much money you have or how thin and fit you are or how many kids you have, none of those things actually generates happiness. Your happiness comes from how you "feel" about those things and more in your life; and only YOU have control over that.
Let's face it; life is challenging at best. People have struggles - ALL people. Some struggle at a much greater degree than others, but everyone has their problems. I won't even bring third world countries into the mix, but for people right here in the "developed" world, the degree of troubles runs the gamut.
Believe it or not, rich people struggle too. Their struggles may seem insignificant in light of your own, but not necessarily. Rich people suffer from health issues and marital issues just like everyone else. They too, can find it difficult to find love and trust. They too, can suffer at the hands of others.
Start with these 4 steps:
1. ASSESS YOUR OVERALL HAPPINESS - Look inside yourself and determine how happy you are on your own scale of 1 to 10. Are you completely miserable? You're probably at a 1 or 2. Could you use a lift in your mood? You're probably a 3 to 5. Are you just 'ok'? You're probably somewhere between a 6 and 8. Do you feel over the moon happy every day? Congratulations!
2. CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE - Understand that happiness can never be bought. Yes, money can ease some problems, but coming to terms with the fact that money will not prevent troubles in other areas of your life, will go a long way towards moving you to a place of bliss now rather than for some unpredictable someday. Take charge of your happiness now. None of us knows how many somedays we have left.
3. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS - Sit down with a paper and pen, or on your computer, and list out at least 10 things in your life that add to your comfort. If you have a place to live, regardless of its size or grandeur, that is a blessing. If you have a vehicle, whether it breaks down regularly or not, that is a blessing. If you have all your teeth, that's a blessing. If you have a friend or significant other that shows you compassion and kindness, that is a blessing.
If you find it difficult to get started, simply take a look around you and start listing the things you see. Do you own a computer? Do you have a desk to put your computer on? Do you have a lamp to see by? Do you have clothes to wear?
REVIEW AND ADD TO YOUR LIST EACH NIGHT BEFORE YOU GO TO BED. THIS WILL REINFORCE YOUR BLESSINGS IN YOUR MIND. THE LONGER YOUR LIST GETS, THE MORE YOU WILL SEE HOW MUCH YOU HAVE TO BE GRATEFUL FOR.
4. EXPRESS GRATITUDE - Take a moment for each item on your list and really feel grateful for it. Feeling grateful for the things and people already in your life is an instant mood elevator. Consider how much harder life would be without running water in your home, or electricity. Your bed may be lumpy, but at least it's not the floor, or worse a concrete sidewalk!
Express your gratitude for these things and really mean it. You will be surprised how this simple act will generate even more things to be grateful for and you will see your problems and troubles and wants diminish in comparison.
Life isn't going to magically get better for you. YOU have to decide that life is what you make it, regardless of your circumstances. You CAN be happy - not tomorrow, not next year, not when you win the lottery. Today. Start taking responsibility for your happiness and start focusing on the good in your life. Begin releasing the anxiety and anger over the troubles you have and think of ways you can turn them around.